We completely miss the opportunity to understand ourselves and others if we don’t demystify the topic of sex. So let’s talk about sex. i’ll try to keep this short; it’s a big topic
why is it that in one discussion after another about sex… that everyone ignores, or perhaps doesn’t consider the fact that sex so instinctual, so primal, so much an essential part of what we are (yes “what”, not “who”), that, it seems to me that our ignoring it will guarantee that we remain dysfunctional as a human society. We are here because of sex and its powerful drive in our ancestors’ lives.
When someone is called a “sex addict”, it’s rarely helpful because the term “addict” is usually used pejoratively. I think we’d be better served calling it something like a powerful innate compulsion that is common to us all, and that can be allowed to be more powerful and develop in various ways if one allows or feeds it. This thread of reasoning obviously leads to the need for more understanding, and more discussion. We are missing the opportunity to understand ourselves and others if we don’t demystify the topic of sex.
The fact that religion has chosen sex as a lightning rod is predictable. When your currency is rhetoric, then you center your discussions on things that are rhetorically powerful; things like fear, death, marriage and sex.
Imagine a world that got educated enough to drop the baggage of religion. We could then talk about sex in terms of realism… and in all it’s varieties and …with an understanding of the many complexities both socially, and physically. Why must it be so hard to talk about sex this way. It’s primal. It’s powerful. And it can change with experience, and with education, and with age, and within social scenarios. Imagine what we could learn if we could let go of the stigmas associated with it.